Monday, February 1, 2016

To The Mama: You Are Loved

 I looked at him over the tops of their heads. "They need to go to bed soon." It wasn't so much for their sake as it was for mine that I said that. I admit it, I was cranky. Everyone wanted a part of me and I just wanted to do what I wanted to do. Yes, as selfish as that sounds, it's true. Why did everyone suddenly need me right when I was ready to sit down and relax and wind down? 
 I put the boys in their beds and sank into my favorite corner of the couch. A bit later, sometime during the latest episode of Downton Abbey, Gerry told me this: "We like you, that's why we want to be with you. We love you." It was one of the sweetest things I have ever heard. 
 I know what it's like, those moments when all you want is some peace and quiet to be by yourself, to not be needed. I know that feeling very well. But I have something to tell you. No, not a tip for more "me time". But simply this. You are loved. They love you. Your husband loves you and your children love you. They don't just cling to you because they need you (although there is that). They hover close to you because they love you. They like you. Isn't it a wonder that they still like you even after all the times when you've been crabby with them when things have gotten to be just too much? And yet they still want to be with you. 
 My advice? To me and to you? Don't push them away. Don't seclude yourself in "me time". Open your arms to them and fill them up with love. Let them know that they are valued and that you return that love.
 And remember this for yourself, you are loved.

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  1. I'm catching up on your blog, and this post, I can relate too 100%!!! Right now I'm just exhausted with having had sick kids for over a month and now having spent 4 days in the hospital with an even sicker child.... :( And when both kids are crying for mom at the exact.same.time... And major lack of sleep.. It's hard.. Not gonna lie I *neeeed* some me myself an I time, but then I remember how blessed I am to have both of children here in my life.. But sometimes momma needs a breather...

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    1. Aww I totally agree! I keep seeing your posts on IG and I feel so bad for you. If we lived closer I would babysit or something for you!

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    2. Aww I totally agree! I keep seeing your posts on IG and I feel so bad for you. If we lived closer I would babysit or something for you!

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